Dating more successful women
If we want to be happy in relationships, we have to get that back - even if that means 'unlearning' some of the things that have got us to the top. Almost all the women I've asked that question want a relationship, including me. We need to accept that, just because we've changed, we can't expect them to. Successful women have reached crisis point and maybe we have to acknowledge we can't undo our evolutionary changes.
A month or so later, he told me that 'he was just not boyfriend material'. If I go on a date now, I've found I avoid talking about my career.When a long relationship broke down a few years ago, my then boyfriend cited my intelligence as a reason that it wouldn't work. That he couldn't bear to be with a bimbo who couldn't hold a sensible discussion? He told me that he just didn't want to go out with a woman who was clever and successful.He said it meant that I could never let any discussion go, or concede a flawed argument; I had to solve problems when they arose, and would argue political points with him.Much as I hate to say it, I think we successful women are to blame for men's reluctance to be with us.In the process of becoming Alpha women, we've lost our femininity.And while men can accept this female aggression in the workplace, they evidently can't in relationships.
The question this leaves successful women with is whether we should learn to be submissive, socially and domestically, in order to attract a mate.
He was an actor in his 50s and said he just wanted 'an easy life'.
In other words, he wanted a bovine woman who wouldn't challenge him mentally or emotionally - someone who would make him feel superior and boost his self-esteem.
I have an ongoing debate with several of my friends about whether men are actually intimidated by successful, assertive women.
For a long time, I believed this type of intimidation was, at best, a romantic-comedy myth invented to make flawless type-A women seem like victims. Lo in The Wedding Planner.) Or maybe it was a self-fulfilling prophecy, like how I never feel bad about my beach body until I am instructed to think about my beach body.
That's quite a challenge for a generation that has always refused to compromise when it comes to our careers.